It is a well known fact that when it comes to reading signals and body language, women are generally much better at it compared to men. Girls tend to socialize more and at a younger age so they have years of practice that boys simply don’t get. Men also tend to be more forward and upfront with they are interested in a woman. Women on the other hand tend to use signals and actions instead of being direct when they are interested in a man. This causes confusion and frustration between both sexes. Being a man I know that there have been plenty of times in my life where I look back now and realize that there were plenty of women who showed interest in me and I completely ignored it or had no idea that she was into me. I see this very commonly with other guys in public as well and it’s so frustrating to witness guys who are around women who like them and yet they have no idea so they don’t approach her. I believe the only way to deal with this issues is for men to educate themselves on the subject and learn what so many women already know. So below is a list of some common indicators of interest to look for when you are around women. This is by no means a complete list and even if you see a woman giving you these signals it doesn’t always 100% of the time mean that she is into you but a lot of the time it does. So here you go and enjoy.
1. She goes out of her way to talk to you: I know it might so sound silly but when a woman likes you, she likes to talk to you. If she goes out of her way to start a conversation with you and keeps it from getting awkward or slowing down, there is a good chance that she is at least interested in you. Also if she answers your calls or texts right away it means she’s been weighting for you to talk to her and wants to talk to you.
2. Eye contact: If you catch a woman making eye contact with you across the room and she smiles or looks away shyly, there is a good chance she is interested in you. It’s also a good indicator that she wants you to approach her. If you are already talking to a girl and she maintains eye contact it is also a good sign.
3. Laughing: If you are having a conversation with a girl and she is laughing at things that you are saying it is a very good sign. (Especially if you aren’t being very funny.) If you can make her laugh she is having fun with you and its taking all of the edge off. Anything that gets her to smile is a good thing.
4. She plays with her hair around you: Both men and women do this when they are around someone they are attracted to. Women do this to get you to notice them and to make their hair look more attractive. It’s also a sign of nervousness when they are around a guy they like. You may catch them pulling down the length of their hair or twirling a strand of hair around their finger. (Women used to do this with telephone cords back when phones had cords and they were talking about or to a guy they liked.)
5. A higher pitched voice: A woman’s voice tends to go up in pitch when she is talking to a guy she likes. This also happens when a woman is ovulating although it’s usually very subtle. Higher pitched voices tend to be a sign of youth and health in women and men often find it more attractive. Some women use “baby talk” as an extreme version of this.
6. Proximity: People have their own personal space. When someone is attracted to you they may find a reason or an excuse to stand close to you. If you welcome their “invasion” it’s a sign that you are comfortable with them being near you which can be a sign of attraction.
7. Touch: Taking the last point a bit further. If a woman goes out of her way to touch you in some way it is a very good sign that she is attracted to you. People don’t touch people they don’t like generally and if they go out of their way to touch it means something positive. She may brush against you as she walks by you or touches your arm to emphasize a point she is making. There are varying degrees of touch which are usually all good signs. If she isn’t slapping you in the face you are probably good. Play fighting is a pretty common one. If she punches you in the arm but laughs or smiles at you while calling you a jerk face you have successfully attracted a woman. Oh, and if she is touching your chest while talking to you there is no denying that she wants you.
8. She exposes her neck: Sometimes a woman will tilt her head up and a little to the side when she is talking to you. It’s a sign of submission and that she is comfortable around you. The neck is a vulnerable spot on the body.
9. She mentions your girlfriend: If you have just met or she doesn’t know you very much she may casually mention something like, “Your girlfriend must really like you.” or something along those lines. This is her not so sneaky way of finding out if you are single or not without coming out and asking you directly.
So there you have it. As I said before this is only a small number of examples and I plan on giving more examples and taking a closer look at body language in a future post. This is a good start though and all of you men reading this should be on the lookout for these signals. It’s funny how your awareness will change when you learn to look for signs of interest. With enough practice and education you will notice these multiple times a day in your everyday life. Thank you for reading and I hope to see you here again soon.